advise

One thing I have to written about is the terrible miscarriage my sister went through a few weeks back, she was only 9 weeks along. I am not going to go into the details as it was terrible but she is going to be okay and can start trying again as soon as her period returns.

The issue is how to handle my mom. My mom felt the need to call me up with all the details and lean on me as her own support b/c my mom "was having a very hard time coming to terms with losing the baby" I finally had to tell her to stop calling me as I was dealing with my own emotional issues and could not take hearing all the details as it was actually giving me nightmares. I mean, who tells someone else who you know is actively ttc (through treatments no less) the details of some one's m/c! my mom, that's who!

So now anytime I share a detail of what we are going through my mom has to relate it to my sister. Me: we had to have genetic testing done as part of ivf. My mom: oh, maybe your sister should get tested b/c of the m/c. Me: as part of the ivf , if I were to get pregnant, I will have more testing done in the beginning to confirm everything. My mom: oh, maybe your sisters drs. will do the same thing, you know, b/c of the m/c. She always end the conversation with, "I just know this will work for you" followed up by "I really wonder how your sister is doing emotionally. and you know she is anaemic, I am really worried she will get the swine flu." Get the point? Normally I would just avoid said mother, but that will be rather hard over Thanksgiving. what to do...